Bella DePaulo is the author of Singled Out: How Singles are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After (St. Martin’s Press, 2006). You can read more about it at http://www.belladepaulo.com/singledout.htm.

She also writes the Living Single blog for Psychology Today.

In contributions to Alternet, and to the op-ed pages of Newsday, the San Francisco Chronicle, the Chronicle of Higher Education, and the New York Times, DePaulo has written about the place of singles in contemporary American society. She is a social psychologist (Ph.D., Harvard, 1979) who has published scientific papers on singlehood in professional journals.

Bella DePaulo is also an expert on the social psychology of deceiving and detecting deceit. She discussed her deception research on the Today show and on Anderson Cooper 360, and in previous years, on other programs such as NBC Nightly News, and the ABC and CBS morning shows.

DePaulo lives in Summerland, CA. For more information, visit her website at www.belladepaulo.com.

Blog Entries by Bella DePaulo

The Unmarried Electorate: 60% Obama, 33% McCain

8 Comments | Posted October 26, 2008 | 06:12 AM (EST)


Want to see a landslide of truly historic proportions? Come November 4, 2008, let single people rule! Registered voters who are unmarried (divorced, widowed, or have always been single) favor Obama over McCain, 60% to 33%. Married people, in contrast, favor McCain, 50% to 43%.

But where is...

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What's With the Cat, and Other Questions about Singles and Their Pets

3 Comments | Posted October 22, 2008 | 05:31 AM (EST)


One time, a publication that interviewed me about Singled Out sent someone to take a picture of me at home. The photographer asked what my book was about, then stopped for a moment to think about how to set up the shot. Looking like he had just been struck...

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It's Singles Week - Someone Tell Newsweek There Are 100 Million of Us and We Vote

Posted September 22, 2008 | 01:13 AM (EST)


This week, September 21-27, is National Singles Week. If you think it is unnecessary to do a bit of consciousness-raising about people who are single - especially in their role as single voters - then consider recent issues of Newsweek and Time.

The September 22 issue of Newsweek...

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Like Your Time Alone? Then This Post is For You

Posted August 21, 2008 | 03:21 PM (EST)


I live in the most ordinary American household - I live alone. Knock on any door in the nation and you are more likely to find a household like mine than a household with mom, dad, and the kids, or a household with a married couple and no kids, or...

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John McCain as a Hood Ornament

Posted August 19, 2008 | 07:14 AM (EST)


The New York Times has William Kristol on its opinion page, and the Wall Street Journal now has Thomas Frank. What Kristol writes could be called scholarship only if Mary Matalin got to define the term; with Frank, his work is the real thing.

In a recent WSJ column,...

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True or False: Married People Healthiest, but Singles Catching Up

Posted August 16, 2008 | 02:13 AM (EST)


"Married adults report better health, but singles are catching up," proclaimed one of the many headlines touting the latest marital status study to make it into the media spotlight.

I'll give you my bottom line about this study first. Then I'll explain in greater detail.

BOTTOM LINE

Here's...

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BBC Claims Singles Are at Risk for Alzheimer's; I Think the BBC is Losing Its Mind

Posted August 1, 2008 | 05:17 AM (EST)


Say it ain't so, BBC! Did you really report the singles-bashing headline, "Singles face Alzheimer's risk"? I'd only call it singles-bashing if this turned out to be still another matrimanical scare story, with little basis in science. So let me explain, BBC, why even you have been mugged by...

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Paula Jones and Impeaching Bush: Equally Amusing Sideshows to CNN's Tom Foreman

Posted June 15, 2008 | 06:51 AM (EST)


Earlier this week, The Raw Story expressed exasperation at the MSM non-coverage of an impeachment story under the headline, "Mainstream Media Yawns as Kucinich Offers Impeachment." A yawn may look pretty good to Raw Story around now. On CNN's This Week in Politics, Tom Foreman demoted the news to...

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Single Boomers: Marketing Myths and Mistakes

Posted June 13, 2008 | 05:23 AM (EST)


One of the most significant demographic trends over the past half-century is the ascendence of people who are single. They have the power of numbers -- as a proportion of the adult population, they are closing in on people who are married. As householders, their place is dramatically different...

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Full-Page "Women Count" Ad for Hillary Excludes 28 Million Women

Posted May 24, 2008 | 05:29 AM (EST)


"We are the women of this nation," declared the ad that filled a full page of the New York Times and USA Today. "Hillary is OUR voice, and she is speaking for all of us."

I had heard about this ad, but I hadn't read it until sociologist

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Just in Time for Wedding Season: Love and Romance Break Free of their Contemporary Moorings

Posted May 11, 2008 | 09:37 PM (EST)


A few weeks ago, Ted Sorensen - husband, father, and renowned speechwriter for President John F. Kennedy - was interviewed by Deborah Solomon of the New York Times. Consider this excerpt:

NY Times: "Was your working relationship with J.F.K. the great love affair of your life?"

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Anyone Want a Few Million More Votes?

Posted May 5, 2008 | 02:56 PM (EST)


They are a Democratic candidate's demographic dream:

• Already, there are tens of millions of them, and each time the Census Bureau issues a new report, we learn that their numbers have swelled still again.

• Their voting potential is not fully tapped. Far from it. Millions among them...

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Marriage Does Not Lower Blood Pressure -- Reading Matrimaniacal Media Accounts Raises It

4 Comments | Posted March 22, 2008 | 05:44 PM (EST)


Feeling stressed? Worried that your blood pressure may be soaring? The media have a solution for you -- get married! You've seen the headlines:

"Marriage may lower blood pressure."
"Walk down the aisle for lower blood pressure, but be happy!"

What you haven't seen, if you...

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To the Author of "Marry Him!": An Apology and an Offer

Posted February 27, 2008 | 05:46 AM (EST)


To Lori Gottlieb, author of "Marry Him!":

Clearly, you were upset by my reaction to your Atlantic piece. I apologize for the distress I caused you. I'll offer an excuse or two, but not to detract from my apology. It stands.

[To readers other than Lori:...

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Divorce and the Environment: A View from the Year 2016

Posted February 25, 2008 | 03:55 PM (EST)


A global trend of soaring divorce rates has created more households with fewer people, that, in turn, take up more space and gobble up more energy and water.
-- National Science Foundation.

Mitt Romney lost his 2008 Presidential bid. He tried again in 2016 and fared a bit...

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"Marry Him!": Atlantic Magazine Back-of-the-Book Backlash Porn

Posted February 17, 2008 | 02:07 AM (EST)


Lori Gottlieb, writing in the Atlantic magazine, has one word for single women of any age: Settle!

Settle, she exhorts us, even for the guy who smells bad or who gives you "a cold shiver down your spine at the thought of embracing" him. Settle for the man who...

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Valentine's Day Advice - No, Not THAT Kind!

Posted February 4, 2008 | 01:12 AM (EST)


I don't see why there is so much advice offered to single people about Valentine's Day. They are not the ones having a hard time.

Recently, Yahoo surveyed users of their Personals page, and found that Valentine's Day is part of "-a0157252925">National Break-Up Season," -- a time...

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Contrary to AP Report, Single Parents Do Not Murder Their Children and Bury Them in Cement

Posted November 18, 2007 | 07:16 AM (EST)


Did you see the recent AP report with the ominous opening paragraph? Remember the 6-year old who was beaten to death then buried in cement? The 2-year old who was thrown across a room and died? It was a lengthy article, but the conclusion was up-front: "an ever-increasing share...

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Veterans Day: The Fairest of Them All?

Posted November 11, 2007 | 05:19 AM (EST)


On most days of the year, some members of the service seem to be chosen as media favorites; they garner more attention, gratitude, and concern than others. Watch the clips of warriors returning home and notice how often they are rushing into the outstretched arms of a spouse.

Listen...

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I'm a Values Voter, Too

Posted November 8, 2007 | 05:18 AM (EST)


The endorsement of Rudy Giuliani by Pat Robertson is cause for brow-furrowing. Who are these "values voters"?

Actually, I think I can answer that, because I'm a values voter, too.

• I value human lives. Not just American lives but Iraqi and Afghani and Iranian and Sudanese and Mexican...

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